How to Prepare Your Family for Surrogacy

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• The Goal: Ensure your partner and children feel informed, supported, and involved.
• The Law: Canadian surrogacy is altruistic; families should understand that expenses are reimbursed, but no “fee” is paid.
• The Support: Using a Trusted Egg Donor Agency like Indian Egg Donors provides your family with medical and psychological guidance.
• Key Step: Open communication about the fact that the baby will go home with the Intended Parents.

Deciding to become a surrogate is a monumental, life-changing decision—not just for you, but for your entire household. In Canada, where surrogacy is built on a foundation of altruism and community, involving your loved ones is the first step toward a successful journey.

Whether you are just starting to research or are ready to apply, here is how you can prepare your family for the beautiful road ahead.

Why Become a Surrogate in Canada?

Choosing to be a surrogate is about more than pregnancy; it’s about giving the gift of parenthood to those who cannot conceive on their own—including South Asian families, LGBTQ+ couples, and individuals facing infertility. For your family, this journey is a living lesson in empathy, generosity, and the power of helping others.

How Long is the Journey?

On average, the surrogacy process in Canada takes 12 to 18 months. This includes:

1. Application and screening (2–3 months)
2. Legal contracts and matching (1–2 months)
3. The IVF/Transfer process
4. The 9-month pregnancy and postpartum recovery.

Step-by-Step Breakdown for Families

• The “First Talk”: Sit down with your partner to ensure you are on the same page regarding medical risks and time commitments.
• Educating Children: Use age-appropriate language. For younger kids, explain that you are “babysitting” a baby in your tummy for a family who needs help.
• Medical Screening: Your family will need to adjust to clinic visits and appointments.
• The Legal Phase: In Canada, you will have independent legal counsel to protect your rights and your family’s well-being.
• Matching: Introduce your family to the Intended Parents (if everyone is comfortable) to create a human connection.

Why Choose a Trusted Egg Donor Agency?

Navigating the Canadian Assisted Human Reproduction Act (AHRA) can be complex. Working with Indian Egg Donors ensures:

• Physician-Led Support: We prioritize the surrogate’s health above all else.
• Legal Compliance: We ensure all reimbursements are handled strictly according to Canadian law.
• Emotional Counseling: We provide psychological support for you and your spouse to process the unique emotions of surrogacy.

Benefits for Your Family

Beyond the emotional reward, the benefits of surrogacy through our agency include:

• Full Reimbursement: All pregnancy-related expenses (travel, groceries, maternity clothes, lost wages) are covered.
• Top-Tier Healthcare: Access to the best fertility clinics and prenatal care in Canada.
• Bonding: Many surrogates find that the experience brings their own family closer together through a shared mission of kindness.

FAQs 

Q. Will my children be confused when the baby doesn’t come home?

A. Most children handle it well if explained early that the baby belongs to the “intended parents” from the start.

Q. Does my husband/partner need to sign anything?

A. Yes, in Canada, your partner usually needs to sign a section of the surrogacy agreement to acknowledge the process.

Q. Are my medical expenses covered?

A. Yes, all medical costs not covered by provincial healthcare are reimbursed.

Q. Can my family meet the Intended Parents?

A.  Absolutely. Many families form lifelong friendships with the Intended Parents.

Q. How do I explain this to my parents or extended family?

A. Focus on the altruistic nature of Canadian law and the joy of helping a family in need.

Q. Will surrogacy take time away from my kids?

A. There will be appointments and a recovery period, so having a support system for childcare is vital.

Q. What if I need bed rest?

A. Your contract will include provisions for childcare and housekeeping reimbursements if bed rest is medically required.

Q. Is surrogacy legal in all Canadian provinces?

A. Altruistic surrogacy is legal across Canada, though Quebec has specific provincial rules to follow.

Q. Can I be a surrogate if I’ve had a C-section?

A. Yes, usually up to two previous C-sections are acceptable, provided your doctor clears you.

Q. How do we handle the “goodbye” at the hospital?

A. We help you create a “Birth Plan” that outlines exactly how the hospital stay and the hand-off will work to ensure your family feels at peace.

Conclusion

Preparing your family for surrogacy is about building a circle of support. When your partner and children understand the “why” behind your choice, they become your biggest cheerleaders. At Indian Egg Donors, we are here to guide your entire family through every medical, legal, and emotional milestone in Canada.

Ready to start the journey? Apply to become a surrogate in Canada today.